Right now, you are holding a big question for your life. Maybe it’s whether or not to have another baby – and what that really means for you. Or perhaps it’s how to do what you love (or what that even is) and still have the time to tend to your sweet kiddos. Whatever it is, the question is there – and it’s a prelude to the next chapter of your life.
But it matters less what you think the answer is right now than how you hold the question. Yes, you heard me. I’m rebuking society’s belief that we need to find the definitive answer now.
Because if you went around and asked the people you most admire (those who are where you might like to be) how they arrived there – they would likely tell you this: there were lots of surprises along the way.
They most likely didn’t find their path through some program that tells you exactly how to get from point A to point B. Nope. Rather, they came to this point through the culmination of experiences. And maybe there was a particular awakening from one that steered them more clearly to where they are today. But most likely, it was those wrong turns, those sideways steps, the strange whims pursued that opened up some new possibility – some curious little side alley that stirred their souls.
You see, most of us have it backwards. We set out to find the answers in order to get started. We want to wait until we’re ready.
Except, ready is what happens to us from being out there and testing the waters and growing our brave. It’s not a feeling that comes to us – or a state that we generally find ourselves in.
Ready is that tipping point in which we’ve got enough invested in it – whatever that choice or direction is – that we choose to move forward.
This is good news, my friend. Because it means that we are not behind the eight ball after all.
We just need to get started on the adventure — to living our way into the answers we seek.
And I think that’s kind of exciting. You?
And yes, it can also be scary. But what’s even scarier is doing nothing about until we’re ready — and then regretting all the missed opportunities that passed us by.
That is a risk I’m no longer willing to take. How about you?